Gossip is almost inevitable and it’s not always that bad. I mean, some of it can be interesting and seriously entertaining.
Gossip has positive aspects to it. It helps you understand other’s relationships and behaviors, like who is dating who and who is or isn’t trustworthy. You are also more likely to gossip to your friend than a stranger, so it helps build a certain intimacy and trust by sharing things in confidence.
But, gossip can lead to horrible consequences. It damages reputations when you spread vicious and false rumors about someone or say judgmental things about them, and those reputations are hard to repair. Friendships get lost, relationships crumble to pieces and kids can get in real trouble at school or at home.
Why do girls even gossip in the first place? 
Most girls gossip to fit in and to make friends. Gossip is a way to show confidence in another person by sharing secrets. Even if the secret is about someone else, it reassures the other person you trust them and it’s an effective yet horrible way of bonding.
Some girls gossip because of cattiness. It’s sad but true and usually there’s an ulterior motive or agenda behind it. For example, my friend and this guy were talking after school and she knew that another friend had a crush on him. So, to prevent from anything serious happening between them, the girl told the guy that our other friend had a boyfriend. It was untrue, but it worked. When a girl uses catty intentions behind her gossip, it’s usually because she believes you did something to her or because you’re in the way of something she wants.
Sometimes gossiping works as validation. It could be that a person thinks you rubbed them the wrong way or they simply don’t think you’re a good person. They gossip to prove their point of view on you. It could be that their intentions aren’t mean, but they need some sort of soothing or relief that they were right.
Finally, gossip could be a learned trait. Growing up, we watch movies and TV where it was normal for girls our age to spread rumors and be mean. In fact, it was a conflict in almost every movie and show and usually the person who did it was pretty, popular and well liked by almost everyone. Also, you could have been growing up in a household where your mother gossips with her girlfriends and as a little girl, our parents are our heroes.
Unfortunately, you can’t avoid or prevent gossip from happening. Whether it’s about you or not, it will always be there. Now you know what’s behind it and whether you let it affect you or not is your decision.
